A Journey To Embracing Vulnerability And Imperfection
From my experiences with various mentors, coaches, and therapists, I know firsthand that counseling has the potential to help those of us who are struggling.
Having grown up in an environment where there was a lack of effective communication and healthy models for behavior, I couldn’t fully understand or confront my emotions as a young adult. As harmful patterns began affecting my own marriage, I realized that I needed to become more vulnerable and aware of my emotional responses.
Working with a therapist improved my marriage. The experience my wife and I had in counseling inspired me to pursue a degree in Marriage and Family Therapy to help other couples in need of hope and healing.
I became a Licensed Professional Counselor (LPC) by the state of Arizona in 2006. Soon after, I opened Crossroads Counseling with the intention of providing a place where couples could come together to find both therapeutic and faith-based solutions.
Listening To Create A Sense Of Peace And Safety
On my journey, I have realized that imperfection is a compelling aspect of being human. In learning to become vulnerable in my marriage, I was able to better connect with my spouse so that we could learn to overcome aspects of shame and fear, navigating conflict together.
As a therapist, I now recognize that shame and fear of abandonment are core qualities of most human struggles. Therefore, I aim to create a therapeutic space where my clients feel seen, heard, and free from judgment. I actively listen to my clients so they can feel secure to open up, share, process, and explore their emotional depths.
In fact, my enneagram is number 9—otherwise known as “The Peacemaker”—which allows me to be particularly effective among high-conflict couples. I aim to bring a sense of mediation, connection, and mutual understanding to all of the couples I see in therapy so they can achieve lasting resolution and healing.