Trouble in Paradise? How to Save Your Christian Marriage?
Christians are called to take marriage seriously. It’s a union created by God, made to represent Christ’s love for the church. You might have gone through some pre-marital counseling with a pastor, or, at the very least, knew each other’s beliefs and values before you tied the knot.
However, no marriage is perfect.
It’s easy to get off track, fall victim to the stresses of everyday life, or even make mistakes you end up regretting. Remember, you’re still just people.
Unfortunately, we live in a fallen world, and that means your marriage can end up feeling cracked and tattered if you don’t purposefully strengthen it and remember the vows you made to each other.
Often, Christian marriages start falling apart because couples involved stop putting Christ at the center.
So, what can you do to save your marriage? How can you fight for your relationship and renew your commitment to each other?
Make Your Marriage a Priority
Life gets busy and stressful sometimes. That’s especially true if you have kids, a demanding job, and you’re trying to maintain some kind of social life.
It’s very easy to get distracted by life’s stressful situations, whether they’re positive or negative. When that distraction starts to take over, you’ll spend less time focusing on your marriage and your spouse.
That might not make a big difference, at first. However, it won’t take long for the foundation to start to crumble, and the strong marriage you’ve worked on for so long will weaken.
Your marriage should be the second most important thing in your life, next to God. Yes, even more important than your children. They need to see the display of a strong marriage and what it means to be committed.
Make your union a priority by spending more time together. Even if you have to schedule a date night once a week, it shows that you’re committed to that time and to each other. Talk without distraction. Make eye contact. Go beyond surface-level conversations. The more time you put into your relationship, the easier it will be to fix those cracks.
Encourage Your Spouse
Everyone goes through ups and downs, both as individuals and as a couple. One of the best things you can do is support your spouse when you know they’re struggling, or if they’re going through any kind of challenge in life.
Simply letting them know you’re there as a shoulder to lean on and a support system will make a big difference.
It will also boost intimacy and vulnerability within your marriage, which can help to bring you closer.
One of the best things you can do as a couple is to take the time to pray together every day. Make it part of your routine. Hold hands, or sit next to each other as you lift one another up. Pray for your relationship, for your family, and for the world around you that’s trying to tear everything apart.
Prayer is powerful in Christian relationships. If you’ve been praying separately or if it’s fallen out of your daily habits, make it a priority again. When you actively put God at the center of your marriage, you’ll see Him bring you back together. You’ll also teach your children the importance of talking to the Lord every day.
If you’re still having struggles in your Christian relationship and you’re looking for more guidance, feel free to reach out to me. No matter what, your marriage isn’t “doomed”. As long as you’re both committed to each other and to the vows you made before God, you can work through almost anything with the right support.
Couples from out of Arizona are welcome to attend one of our intensives.
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